My son’s third birthday may have been more of a milestone for me, his mother, than it was for him. It was the first year that he expressed a preference for a specific theme and the first year he wanted to invite all of his preschool friends. We had to budget carefully in order to have a party that included everyone. To do that, we identified ways to cut down on the biggest expenses. In the process, I learned a lot about what makes a party special for a three-year-old boy.

Here are the major birthday party expenses and suggestions for saving money in each category without sacrificing the things that make the party special.

Location

 If you’re willing to invite your child’s entire preschool classroom, then you’re probably interested in renting out a playspace. Of all the playspaces we called, our local YMCA’s gymnastics facility was the least expensive. It’s where they hold gymnastics classes for kids ages 18 months through high school, and rent out the facility on the side.

It was a hit. There weren’t any planned activities during the hour, and the kids loved being able to cut loose. They ran back and forth on the trampoline, jumped in the foam pit, and crawled around an obstacle course.

If you have a local YMCA or other non-profit recreational spaces, poke around to see if they have any birthday rental spaces. If the party is in a warm season, you could have the party for free at a local playground.

Cake

 I continue to be shocked at the prices parents pay for cool birthday cakes. I know that significant time, effort, and skill goes in to creating an awesome cake, so the price is justified. But whenever I’m faced with the opportunity to buy that kind of cake, I always balk. I’ve never been able to bring myself to pay that much for something that’s going to get eaten by kids that don’t know the difference between a cake made by Julia Child or Betty Crocker.

I decided to make the cake myself, which was a good idea because it saved me at least $30. Going on Pinterest for inspiration, however, was a bad idea.

A few of the my inspiration photos: cupcakes of different trains, tracks around the cake, Thomas cookies, and a “Snack Train.”

It was also a bad idea to try to decorate the cake on the day of the party. Silly me, I didn’t realize that (a) you can freeze cake and (b) you can decorate cake up to a few days in advance. I learned, at the last minute, that I didn’t even have the skills to write “Happy Birthday” on the cake without messing it up three times. Trust me when I tell you that one hour before the party is a terrible time to decorate a cake. Do it the night before. Better yet, you should bake the cake the weekend before, wrap it tightly in plastic, and freeze it.

Keep in mind whose birthday you’re celebrating. Your preschooler will be psyched to eat cake. Period. The fact that it has his or her name on it is the cherry on top. As I was attempting to ice a Pinterest-worthy cake and failing, my son was starting at the cake with wide eyes full of delight and anticipation. He was just happy to have cake.

Although initially this was to save money, it was a bonus that his nut-free friends could enjoy the same cake that everyone else would (it can be hard to find a nut-free bakery).

Decor

 Pinterest was also crawling with fabulously creative DIY décor. As much as I love to get creative and DIY, I was working full time and didn’t have the time. I also didn’t find any DIY ideas that would save us any money when I could pay just $20 for Thomas-themed tablecloths, treat bags, and a big Thomas image for the wall.

They were not Pinterest-worthy. They were cheesy and cheap. And awesome for three-year-olds. My son and his friends’ faces lit up as they gleefully discovered their favorite trains on the tablecloth and they exclaimed over how big Thomas was in the picture hanging on the wall. No one cared that the plates and napkins were the “value pack” red and did not have Thomas characters on them.

Party Favors

I hate waste, so I decorated the room with the favor bags and tied them up with balloon. So, the décor became the party favors and we didn’t have to live with 30 balloons in our home over the next month. My son’s birthday is after Valentine’s Day, so I was able to snag some of the low-cost items sold in high-volume packages for Valentine’s Day, like bubbles, play doh canisters, and Thomas stickers. 

In one of my crowning achievements as a couponer, I used coupons during a sale on Thomas fruit snacks, and got them for $0.40 a box. I cut the images off of the nine boxes of fruit snacks and used them for centerpieces. Cheesy? Yes. Toddler-smile-inducing? You bet. I even spotted some kids playing with the cutouts, which made my heart happy.

What made my heart the happiest of all: My son and his friend’s delight at seeing the tablecloth trains? One little guest’s surprise at seeing a Thomas picture twice his size? The pride in my son’s eyes when he was presented with a cake and a candle to blow out? Nope. It was the sound I heard right before I walked from the party room to the gym. If I could bottle it, I would. Squeals, giggles, laughter, and shrieking (the good kind) as 20 preschoolers jumped into a pit of foam blocks, bounced on a trampoline, climbed over mats, and slid down slides.

None of that had anything to do with the cake, the decor, or the party favors. It was unadulterated fun. Well, I did see one or two adults in the foam pit.

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Snacks (Create-Celebrate-Explore)
Cake (Sugar Babies)
Cookies (Sweet Dreams Bakeshop)

There seems to be a lot of upcoming nuptials in the Personal Fiance niche so I feel the need to talk about my experience with buying our wedding rings online, for cheap.

My proposal was very traditional. I knew nothing about the ring, the timing, anything. We had been together for many years at this point (started dating at 16) so trusted he knew me well enough and knew us well enough to get it right in both engagement ring and timing. He totally surprised me with both choice of ring and timing. It was special.

I’m a simple girl. I don’t wear jewelry beyond stud earrings and now my wedding rings so would have picked something very small and simple for myself. I wouldn’t have even bought a real diamond and gone lab made all the way but like I said, he’s traditional so I 100% left it up to him. He surprised me with a three stone diamond ring set in white gold on my last day of classes (upon completing my second university degree), it was beautiful and perfect since he spend weeks choosing it.

With the engagement stress long gone, I started having a say in everything else wedding related, such the wedding rings. I went into local jewelry stores to try on different band styles with my ring and my fingers to see what I did and did not like. I toyed with the idea of getting lab made diamond wedding bands to match my ring but couldn’t find a style I liked. They were all much more ornate than I was looking for. I found the simple wedding band I wanted but wasn’t so happy with dishing out so much money for a piece of jewelry.

I started searching around online one night and found the exact ring I wanted, at 60% less than the jewelry store was offering. I have bought things online before but somehow felt reluctant to buy such an important item online and though it was 60% off, it was still a chunk of change for both my ring and the ring my husband picked out. I thought about it for weeks, did more research and bit the bullet and input my credit card information.

I decided to buy the rings from this site based on testimonials, the satisfaction guarantee that came with it and of course, the price. I’m so glad I did it. The rings arrived within a few weeks (getting held up in customs) and were exactly as promised. I had a local jeweler do a quick check on them to make sure they were in fact as they said as they passed with flying colors. For less than $300 I bought both my wedding band as well as my husbands. While I did get dinged for another $50 in custom fees it was still worth every penny. Almost five years later and we have no regret, quite the opposite, we’re looking at buying another ring to (in my husband’s words) complete my ”set”.

If you buy anything online, especially something as important as your wedding bands, do your research! I have nothing but good things to say about the company we used but have heard horror stories from other friends. If you’re not 100% comfortable with anything about the transaction don’t do it or get clarification.

My husband was reluctant at first to buy our wedding bands online, thought it was weird and impersonal but when I showed him the price difference he quickly came around 🙂